Family Responsibilities Causing Work Problems

Watertown, Massachusetts — June 24

A new study of working men and women across the U.S. reveals that while progress has been made over time, many working moms and dads still fear that their family responsibilities may cause them to experience significant challenges at work. Those who do feel supported by their employer report strong loyalty to their employer.

The Modern Family Index, commissioned by Bright Horizons Family Solutions, explored what it means to be a working parent today and revealed that while much has changed about how parents approach family obligations and commitments, many employees still feel like they can’t be honest with their supervisors about family responsibilities.
Key findings include:
• Even in 2014, working parents fear family responsibilities could get them fired.
• Work/family balance is not only a women’s issue; fathers are just as stressed and insecure about work and family conflicts as mothers.
• Working parents are willing to give up valuable pay and health benefits for reliable, quality child care.
• Working parents are almost never on vacation, most using paid time off for family responsibilities instead of taking a trip or relaxing.
• According to the survey, 80 percent of modern families have two working parents in the home, 55 percent have two or more children, almost a third of families are caring for an elderly relative or expect to be in the next five to 10 years, 13 percent are caring for a child with special needs, and 7 percent are parenting in a committed same-sex relationship.

According to the survey, working parents are looking to their employers as a main source of support so they can be their best at work and at home. In fact, more than 4 in 10 (41 percent) don’t feel they can be a successful working parent without a supportive boss — a factor second only to a spouse/partner who shares in the household duties (49 percent).

When employees are worried or distracted, factors key to organizational success like employee productivity, retention and engagement suffer. Research shows when employers can eliminate sources of distraction for employees, they benefit from engaged and committed workers. Employers who do this best are those that recognize their employees’ obligations both in and out of work, and help them to fulfill those commitments.

Working parents admit they have feared that their family responsibilities could negatively impact their career and could actually get them fired or demoted. They also worry that because they have family obligations, they will not be assigned key projects and that they will not be invited to important meetings, hampering their ability to grow professionally.

Six in 10 working parents have at least one work-related concern caused by family responsibilities:
• 48 percent of working parents admit one of their concerns due to their family responsibilities is that they could get fired.
• 39 percent fear being denied a raise because of family responsibilities.
• 37 percent fear they will never get promoted again while 26 percent worry about a demotion because of family responsibilities.
• 22 percent worry that family commitments will cost them key projects at work.
• 19 percent believe they won’t be invited to important meetings because of family obligations.
• To make sure family responsibilities don’t creep into the work day, working parents report spending more than half (51 percent) of paid time off dealing with family responsibilities instead of taking a trip or relaxing at home.
• Nearly a quarter (23 percent) of working parents admit to lying or bending the truth to their boss about family responsibilities that get in the way of work.
• Almost one-in-three (31 percent) have faked being sick to meet family obligations.
• More than half (56 percent) report that one of the topics they would hesitate to ask their boss about is reducing hours, working remotely or placing boundaries on responding to calls or emails.

Men surveyed admit to being stressed out by child care needs during the work day as well as their ability to achieve a good work-life balance, and are just as likely as women to say that family responsibilities could jeopardize their career.

Even though working parents report becoming better employees in many ways since having children, working parents continue to stress about child care needs during a typical workday and would be willing to forgo higher-paying jobs, vacation time and other benefits for reliable child care.

Forty-nine percent of parents stress about child care emergencies or general commitments to their children while 85 percent of working parents say they would be willing to make at least one sacrifice in order to secure reliable child care:
• More than 1 in 3 of those parents (35 percent) would turn down a higher-paying job or give up their next pay raise (31 percent) in return for reliable child care.
• 25 percent would give up one current health benefit, such as vision or dental.
• 50 percent of working fathers and 41 percent of working mothers would give up one week of paid vacation for a year for dependable child care.

Source: Bright Horizons Family Solutions